Saturday, March 20, 2010

Waking Up

Ok this is a back to back marriage kinda post. (Yes i'm in that age group...sigh :P )

Anyways so to its quite difficult to choose a partner, not just through the arranged route but even when you are in a relationship.

And its pretty difficult to reason out stuff, sometimes the looks may be good but the compatibility isn't there, sometimes the person is nice but hell your tastes don't match; so many contra-indications are there that they can drive you mad.

So there's a simpler way to get to a yes / no and i'd like your feedback on it, and no not a logical one, but one based on your experience...So the hypothesis is...If we ask ourselves "Do i want to wake up next to this person every day for the next 40 years of my life" and we don't get a comfortable yes, then its probably a no.

And like i said, don't rationale it out, ask yourself the question and lemme kno if it works


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

That is THE question to get the answer. I always ask myself that. Also, not just wake up next to him in the same state. But wake up next to him when he starts getting fat, when he starts getting gray hair, when he is still watching that match on the television and you do not mind it, when you have your baby lying between the two of you, when his arthritis starts acting up, when his teeth begin to fall and when he sleeps with his denture in a glass on the side table. Phew! That is allot of thinking to do, but I say, worth it. :)


Anonymous said...

Err...romantic as it may sound, don't forget its here and now that one feels that way. Even if the answer is yes for now, it can/will change in the long run. I think if you can have healthy togetherness with healthy doses of space, it is good enough!

sanely insane said...

@chandni yeah that is one of the shortcomings of this approach

@LSL yeah na...

Kadri Luik said...

I found, not a man that I thought that I could live with for the rest of my life, but the man I knew I couldn't live without.

We've been together for over 21 years by now and waking up without him by my side is awful. I'm annoyed by his snoring, irritated when he steals my pillows and sometimes I feel like kicking him out of the bed in retaliation, but I'd rather have all of that than be without him.

aria said...

Gosh this is tough .. I only want to see my dog when I wake up in the morning ..

Btw.. even if I am madly in love with someone for the rest of my life I would still like my space.. as in certain days when I'd wish I was away from him .. and he from me..

Freak Goddess said...

hmm.. not really! at times even after u've gotten a comfortable yes, sometimes you just wanna be by yourself when you wake up in the morning.

However, as a thumrule.. i'd say this is a 9 on 10 sureshot way to get ur answer!