Uneasy Love

I've been an ardent believer of the "try and understand" people philosophy

It's not a bad philosophy and to a very large extent it should be followed

But beyond that you'll find there's enough about a person you'll just never understand

And so if you are going to base your love on understanding then "curse me to any end for saying this now and not earlier" you are probably gonna be in big trouble

So this line today "Woman are meant to be loved, not to be understood" that i read on FB kinda struck me, while like most sensible statements its corrupted by a bias towards one gender...but if you can get past that...you'll find that only loving is loving...understanding is never gonna be loving

And that's a very uneasy zone...at least for me...because it involves going into a zone where you are vulnerable and exposed, there is no back up of rationality to help you...it sends shivers down your spine and makes your heart rush...

But hey didn't I just describe symptoms of being in love...

I rest my c"ass"e

Judgement Day

Should we judge? Eitherways...here's me stirring the cauldron of thoughts...

One reason why I believe people dislike judging others is that...well we don't usually know the complete context in which another person acted and hence our judgments could very easily and very often turn out to be wrong...and that's scary!!!

But then isn't life all about judging... isn't it an inescapable act?

As you are approaching an intersection your mind is judging whether to slow down based on the traffic. The first time you meet some person, their body language, the clothes, everything starts forming perceptions in our minds, doesn't it?

And if there is no judgment at all...won't criminals romp the earth free?

And does life judge us...each french fry we eat...we are so squarely judged for it, aren't we ;)

From careers, to what meal we are going to eat next we make as many judgments and choices as there are moments...

The essence therefore may lie in being aware of the limitations under which we make our judgments and to learn from our past mistakes to sharpen our judgment skills and to be very careful while we make our judgments


The whole topic of judgment would also in a way tell us, that look be as transparent as possible, make it easy for people to judge you fairly

And having said that one would also say, don't be afraid of being judged wrongly. I think the lives of Mahatma Gandhi and Lord Ram had the twists in them to tell people that dudes and dudettes of the world, if people can question us, they can definitely question you, so don't let it hassle you, do what you believe in...